RING or ROOMIES First???
Dec - 06 | By: admin | 3 comments.
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Great article and I’m definitely one who feels you should shack up before marriage due to the generation that we are growing up in. Perhaps if things were the way they were when our grandparents were young then marriage first could come into play. Unfortunately, couples have to deal with adultery, abuse, and violence, so its better to know then to find out when its too late. Again great article.
I agree…to an extent though. Living with someone definitely does give you greater insight into who they are as a whole…the good and the bad. And, while some of the things you learn might be seemingly small matters (ie do they snore, do they clean up after themselves, etc.)…when you’re talking about spending the rest of your life with someone, EVERYTHING matters.
But also keep in mind that for some men, the old saying is true…why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? If you’re acting like his wife already, without the ring or the commitment, why would he be compelled to go that extra step with you?
But even more importantly, with the other things you spoke about…you don’t need to live with a man for him to reveal himself as an abuser or a cheater. All you need is to give your relationship time to develop instead of rushing in. Time will always tell…
Dont fall into love…walk into it with your eyes open and your feet on the ground. And when it’s right, you will know…and so will he. Trust me…
I have lived with a man in the past and it can definitely be an experience. At this juncture in my life I do not want to live with another man until I am ready to take the step towards marriage. It feels good living own my own and being able to come an go as I please with out all the questions. My freedom is so important to me right now. Also,as parents we can not have different men coming in and out of our homes (especially with girls)It’s our responsibility to set an example to the best of our ability. Although mommy needs that “special attention” there will always be a time to get yours. Also, we have to set standards for ourselves. We can not go back in time and right the wrong decisions we have made in the past. But, moving forward we can ensure we do not put ourselves in those situations again.
I no longer feel living with a man is a prerequisite for marriage.